I have been getting more and more frustrated with the amount of snide and sneaky comments that I see towards other people on facebook. I realize that this is a public forum and you are entitled to say whatever you want to say. I personally have been guilty of posting comments without naming names of people, but knowing fully that they would realize that my comment was meant toward them. I have also been on the receiving side of these comments. I must say, I don't enjoy it.
I have had to learn to bite my "figurative" tongue on facebook when I have things I'd like to say for myself or in response to others' comments. I guess my question is this: What is the motivation for doing this? If the intent is to hurt someone's feelings or wound someone's pride or reputation...I think that is succeeding.
I am saddened by the amount of Christians on this site who, instead of dealing with their problems face to face as the Bible commands us to do, are petitioning their friends in the facebook community to rally to their side and back-up their feelings. Do we really need that much of a confidence boost that we can't talk to the person/people we are irritated with and must enlist our closest 500 facebook friends to get our backs and assure us that our point of view is the right one?
Or why do people make vague comments that imply something terrible is going on, but then decline to discuss it? What are we seeking? Attention? Confrontation? Aggravation?
I think a lot more of our problems would be solved if we dealt with people, not with facebook. Facebook in some ways, has been the bain of my existence...getting me in trouble for things I have said, haven't said, haven't done, started rumors...you name it! If this wasn't pretty much the sole way that I keep up with so many friends from high school and college, I think I'd be off of here!
If you have something to say...say it! But I suggest saying it in the right way...in a spirit of gentleness, kindness, and love...and if you aren't capable of doing that...maybe some things are just better left unsaid...at least to the facebook world.
I am not targeting anyone in specific with this post, because then I would be ignoring my own advice. This is also NOT in response to anything that has personally been said or done to me...I am just noting a growing trend amoung many of my facebook friends. It is just a suggestion to anyone who cares to read the ramblings and thoughts of a 28 year old, sleep deprived woman...just thought it was something to think about.
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